Decisions
Decisions. Decisions.
Making decisions used to be one of my worst nightmares.
I would spend sooo much time and brain power thinking about big decisions (shall I move to a new continent?) and small decisions (do I want the salmon teriyaki or the ramen bowl?).
Thinking. Worrying.
Going round in circles trying to predict the outcome. 🌀
Picking one option and immediately changing my mind.
Calling my brother and trying to trick him into making a decision for me (#sorrynotsorry).
Ordering something and then running after the waiter because I had changed my mind.
Truth is: I used to think there was a “right” choice and a “wrong” choice.
A part of me believed that if I thought long and hard enough about something I would be able to control the unfolding of my decision (bless past me 🥲).
Being a perfectionist, I did NOT want to get decisions wrong… which inevitably led me to spend a LOT of time in a state of limbo /indecision aka the worst place.
With time I’ve come to realise that there’s no such thing as a right or wrong choice.
There are just experiences.
And no matter what, they give us information about who we are, what we like and don’t like.
We can choose to learn from ALL of them and so choose to transform them into great decisions… no matter how they turn out.
Plus, the better we get at making decisions, the easier life gets.
Rather than being stuck in an endless loop of indecision (usually fulled by fear), by deciding to say YES/NO we keep the flow going.
It’s safe to make decisions, my love. You can always change your mind, and re-calibrate. Very few decisions are final and irrevocable.
Try to not make them bigger than they are. Remember they’re only as overwhelming or as simple as we make them.
PRO tip: Don’t rely only on my mind to make a decision. Tap into your heart and your body.
Sometimes asking yourself: “what feels most loving and nourishing?” Can also help with clarity.
Go have fun making some decisions!